And MrB--I disagree completely with the idea that cats don't affiliate with specific people. I've had a lot of cats over my life, and it's just not true that a human is just part of the cat's landscape.
I've had many many cats over the years
and not ONE of them has been "JUST" A Cat...
I don't get that...?
I see it all the time...!
People OWN cats that are "JUST" Cats...
like Furry Furniture... they eat they crap...
I don't get that? ...what's the bloody point...?
The only thing I can think of is that you get out of them
exactly what you put into them
If you see them & treat them "like furry furniture"
you get what you deserve... >nothing<
like most people LOVE Kittens
but then become indifferent to them once they grow up
Maybe I got it backward...
...but to me...
THE BEST PART ABOUT A KITTEN IS THAT THEY BECOME CATS!
I'm not a kooky 'Cat Lady' who plays 'dress-up' with cats,
nor do I coo to them as if they were babies
...and I've Yet to "OWN" One... (nor do they "OWN" Me!)
At best I co-habitate with them (only I get to pay the rent)
and I respect them as beings...as equals...and as friends.
I happen to enjoy their independent nature, that they come
and go as they please, rather than having them "underfoot"
the way I view most dogs..awaiting your every command (ush!)
The danger lies in that THEY DO BECOME YOUR FRIEND
and as such leave a huge hole in your soul when they pass.
The only way of expressing that is it's as if
"...you just lost your best friend..."