Strange people out there

Posted by: OSXaddict

Strange people out there - 10/12/02 08:42 AM

There are some psycho women out there. <br><br>A coworker of mine, who works overnights, had broken up with his gf a couple of months ago. Well, apparently she had been calling him at work wanting to get back with her...and trying the honey trap- sex. But he refused.<br><br>Then the calling stepped up and she would even call when I got there in the morning, hanging up when I answered.<br><br>She even started calling the main office of work and accused him of selling/doing drugs around her kids! And she even called his other place of employment (a HS where he was a basketball coach) and said the same thing!!<br><br>Of course when the A.D. at the HS told her to come in and make a formal complaint, she hung up!<br><br>So this goes on, with her calling, for a few weeks. I advise him to go take an EPO (emergency protective order, basically a restraining order) out against her. Which he did and the night before the court date, while he is in Atlanta visiting his brother, wouldn't you know his house burns down! [Eek!]<br><br>Everything is gone...this is a 46 year old man with 2 kids. Pictures...everything. Damn sad thing.<br><br>So the arson investigator said the fire was started in 4 places..yup..deliberate.<br><br>He has a hard time grasping it...still emotionally hurt. Told me that he is afraid that he might run into her and then he would be going to jail.<br><br>Proving that she caused the fire is gonna be difficult...only hope is that they either find evidence or she admits to it.<br><br>Oh, the basketball coaching job? She kept calling and talked to someone in the head office and when they did a background check, found a misdemeanor charge he forgot to include that happened years ago. Yeah, it's his fault, but damn...So they requested either he resign or termination would begin.<br><br><br>Guess I better start doing background and psychological testing on potential girlfriends! <br><br>
Posted by: Entish

Re:strangeness - 10/12/02 09:09 AM

can't live with them.. can't live without them :shrug:<br>I am sure you really don't want the details of what we all have to put up with in the name of "love" (spelt HATE). Funny how we only treat those we "love" in such a fashion..<br><br>nods yep : his fault : first of all for doing what he did in his past, second for getting intricate with his own brand of madwoman, third for actually telling her what he did in his past.<br><br>I have found the best solution is to shut up and give them what they want .. while they are looking.. and take what you can get... when they relax their guard.<br><br>Be thankful for what you are about to receive<br>and remember this old old saying; <br>"you get what you give"<br><br> <br>Why do we never get an answer<br>When we're knocking at the door<br>Because the truth is hard to swallow<br>That's what the war of love is for<br>It's not the way that you say it<br>When you do those things to me<br>It's more the way that you mean it<br>When you tell me what will be<br>And when you stop and think about it<br>You won't believe it's true<br>That all the love you've been giving<br>Has all been meant for you<br>I'm looking for someone to change my life<br>I'm looking for a miracle in my life<br>And if you could see what it's done to me<br>To lose the love I knew<br>Could safely lead me through<br>Between the silence of the mountains<br>And the crashing of the sea<br>There lies a land I once lived in<br>And she's waiting there for me<br>But in the grey of the morning<br>My mind becomes confused<br>Between the dead and the sleeping<br>And the road that I must choose<br><br><br>
Posted by: MacGizmo

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 09:14 AM

There's much to be said about being married... at least I KNOW what I have!<br><br>I never much cared for the whole "dating game." I found it to be quite tiring!<br><br><br>[color:red]What? I don't understand. What?</font color=red>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re:strangeness - 10/12/02 09:41 AM

He didn't tell her..she was making up all of that!<br><br>And yeah, his fault for not listing that charge on his application...only thing he did wrong. <br><br>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 09:42 AM

No kidding..I find it to be very tiring..stupid games people play. Guess that's why I don't have that many dates cause I'm tired of looking. <br><br>
Posted by: MacGizmo

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 09:46 AM

You'll never find someone when you're looking anyway! Stop "looking" and someone will fall right into your lap... hopefully face first! <br><br><br>[color:red]What? I don't understand. What?</font color=red>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 09:47 AM

You know, I always hear that, and it's always from married people. Go figure.<br><br>
Posted by: MacGizmo

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 09:57 AM

It's true my friend... I was dating every stinkin skank in Las Vegas and couldn't find anyone I would so much as run around the block for... I eventually stopped dating for a while and concentrated on work... about a month or two later, I met my wife over the internet (long story!). She didn't even live in the same state as me, so I never would have met her anyway.<br><br><br>[color:red]What? I don't understand. What?</font color=red>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 10:01 AM

That's cool...I met my ex gf on the internet..she lived in FL. <br><br>
Posted by: Trog

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 10:03 AM

You mean you didn't find a wife while "dating every stinking skank in Las Vegas" <br><br>
Posted by: MacGizmo

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 10:09 AM

Nope...<br><br><br>[color:red]What? I don't understand. What?</font color=red>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 10:11 AM

Perhaps sometime you can entertain us with the story?<br><br>
Posted by: KateSorensen

It was like a fairy tale - 10/12/02 10:16 AM

and the stuff movies are made out of:<br><br>Janet (the wife) and I both went to the same high school in Phoenix AZ. We lived about 4 streets away from each other, we were both heavily involved in sports and academic activities, etc.. but we never knew each other, because our graduating class had over 1,200 seniors.<br><br>Shorty after high school, she went to grad school and I moved to Nevada to pursue my career in advertising. 10 years later, I happened to be surfing the school website (I still kept in touch with a former graphic arts teacher who now runs the website) and noticed it was time for the 10 year reunion. So I sent my address, phone & e-mail to the person coordinating the event (Janet). She responded via e-mail, and we got to writing back & forth for a week or two. We then took the next logical step and started talking on the phone. Having no idea what she looked like anymore, or really what kind of person she was other than what she told me in emails and on the phone, I decided to make a trip to Phoenix to visit family, and meet Janet for dinner and drinks. That was a Friday night.<br><br>Now you have to understand that I knew I liked this girl from the start because I heard dogs barking in the background when we spoke on the phone - so we had at least one thing in common. The next day (Saturday) we met for lunch and talked some more. Sunday we said goodbye. Monday she called and said she would like to come visit me in Las Vegas. I said great, anytime you want. She came up on Thursday. That was it... Friday she drove back to Phoenix, boxed up her clothes and some personal items and hit the road again. On Saturday she was moving in to my house here in Vegas. We never really had a formal "date." It was a reall "jump off the deep end" for me. The first night was INCREDIBLY uncomfortable around 9 or 10 pm when we had to accept the fact that we hardly knew each other (never slept together - only one friendly kiss) and had to sleep in the same bed. That lasted for about a week. After the initial awkwardness wore off, we found that we were pretty much in love - and this was "IT."<br><br>It took me 3 years, but I finally asked her to marry me in 2000. The entire time we knew we would end up moving back to Phoenix so we could be closer to both our families. Janet works for a landscaping company and has been the company golden-child for a long time now. She was recently offered a position that, unlike the last 5 offers, was just too good to pass up. I really don't want to leave my job as a designer with an ad agency in Las Vegas. It's a fantastic company and is one of the top 100 in the US (top 40 in the southwest). But, I guess marriage is sometimes about sacrifice, and we might as well make the move now when at least one of us has a great offer on the table. Her company is paying for our move, making our house payment until it sells, and is supplementing her salary to cover the fact that I'm giving up my job. It really IS too hard to pass up.<br><br>So, I spent the weekend making the first of two trips with a U-Haul to Phoenix. We moved her down and she is staying with her mother until I get down there later this month. I got back tonight (sunday) and I miss her and the dogs already. Kind of strange for me, since I am the type of person who enjoys my own space, and time alone.<br><br><br><br>
Posted by: MacGizmo

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 10:23 AM

I just posted that whole story, and I see Kate already covered it for me! <P ID="edit"><FONT SIZE=-1><EM>Edited by MacGizmo on 10/12/02 01:25 PM (server time).</EM></FONT></P>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: It was like a fairy tale - 10/12/02 10:26 AM

Dang Kate...and all this time I thought you were a woman! <br><br><br>And you live so close to MacGizmo...<br><br>/cue the theme from Twilight Zone....<br><br>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 10:28 AM

Ahh....ok! So she's your secretary? or historian? <br><br>
Posted by: KateSorensen

I remembered - 10/12/02 10:28 AM

it because it was so sweet. I have a friend who just passed away. She married her school friend and neighborhood pal and they were married 47 years. We all went thru school together from kindergarden to high school and were a close knit bunch.<br><br>I hope you and your wife have many sweet and happy years together.<br><br>I found your story on MC by searching for "we met".<br><br>Kate<br><br>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: I remembered - 10/12/02 10:30 AM

Wish I could check out the chicks from my HS class..but it as a class of 40 people and not that many I was interested in. And now they are all married...<br><br>
Posted by: KateSorensen

Re: It was like a fairy tale - 10/12/02 10:31 AM

I AM WOMAN!<br><br>NEED MAN. . .<br><br>ANYONE? . . . .<br><br>Over 25 and breathing will do . . .<br><br>
Posted by: MacGizmo

Re: I remembered - 10/12/02 10:31 AM

wow... that's impressive that you even remembered that I posted that story, cause I didn't.<br><br><br>[color:red]What? I don't understand. What?</font color=red>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: It was like a fairy tale - 10/12/02 10:32 AM

Are you trying to start a dating service here? <br><br>
Posted by: KateSorensen

May I add - 10/12/02 10:35 AM

on behalf of one of the "older women"<br><br>What Older Women Want, Men Can't Deliver?<br>Fri Oct 11, 9:10 AM ET<br>CHICAGO (Reuters) - Many older women still want to have sex, but they might find their men cannot oblige. <br><br>So says a global survey of 27,780 adults aged 40 to 80 from 30 countries that found aging women become sexually dysfunctional at about half the rate of men. <br><br>"To the extent that women are (sexually active), they may be facing men who have problems," said lead researcher Edward Laumann, a University of Chicago sociologist due to present some of his findings at a Vancouver, British Columbia, conference on Thursday.<br><br>The survey found that 31 percent of middle-aged and older women lacked interest in sex, 22 percent were unable to achieve orgasm, 21 percent did not find sex pleasurable, 20 percent had trouble lubricating, and 14 percent experienced pain with sex.<br><br>Among men, about 20 percent suffered from erectile dysfunction, which increased to nearly half by age 80, according to the survey, which was funded by Pfizer, Inc., the maker of the impotence treatment Viagra.<br><br>Among the health problems common to older people associated with sexual dysfunction were diabetes and hypertension, especially in men. But psychological factors, especially depression, diminished interest in sex after 40.<br><br>In the United States, two-thirds of men aged 70 or older have a companion who is a potential sex partner, while less than one-third of women do because of women's longer life spans and divorce patterns.<br>* * *<br><br>Over 25 and breathing, call: 1 357-264-8497, ask for "Kate" <br><br><br><br><br>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: May I add - 10/12/02 10:36 AM

Kate! you surprise me! <br><br>
Posted by: KateSorensen

Reunion - 10/12/02 10:39 AM

150 plus were in our class. I've never attended a reunion in Millville, New Jersey. I have forever joked, "I'll attend the 50th reunion when the crowd has "thinned" down."<br><br>2004 will be the occasion of our 50th. The crowd indeed has thinned down more than I would have ever imagined. I have not yet decided whether I will attend. So many dear friends have passed away. Such is life.<br><br>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: Reunion - 10/12/02 10:40 AM

You should. I attended the 15th year and the 20th is next year for me. But not sure if I'll go or not. The last time it was kinda boring...only 15 people or so showed up.<br><br>
Posted by: KateSorensen

Wouldn't - 10/12/02 10:41 AM

it be terrible if some people actually called that number and there WAS an old 92 year old lady there named Kate?<br><br>DON'T CALL THAT FAKE NUMBER DUDES !<br><br>You'll give that lady a heart attack. Or maybe make her day! <br><br>
Posted by: KateSorensen

Re: Reunion - 10/12/02 10:43 AM

That is what I am afraid of. The people who do show up would not be the ones I would want to visit with or hear about anyway, or they me! Ya takes yer chances.<br><br>
Posted by: KateSorensen

The story - 10/12/02 10:47 AM

was old hat to you, but you treated it in a special way in sharing it with the world. A very warm part of your heart was exposed to the forum and the populace of web. I bet it was special to most of the women and even some of the men who might have liked to share their own "sweet love story" but couldn't.<br><br>Thanks. <br><br>
Posted by: MacGizmo

Re: The story - 10/12/02 11:47 AM

Yeah, I'm a real soft-hearted type of person... I just don't like to show it online too often! I know... you couldn't tell huh? <br><br><br>[color:red]What? I don't understand. What?</font color=red>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: Wouldn't - 10/12/02 11:50 AM

Oh darn...and here I was having a good time on the phone <br><br>
Posted by: Entish

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 04:55 PM

but that is the whole point.. it is true that some plan marriage.(which usually fails)<br>but the majority just fall into it face first.. <br>or simply marry the first one that cooks breakfast instead of running at first light.<br>I never had any success with any person who wanted to make a date.<br>There is always one person in your life who simply will not go away.. that is the one... the reliable one .. marry her and stop chasing the dream girl.. because there is a dream girl inside every woman.. What do you see when you turn out the lights...?<br><br>
Posted by: Entish

Re: Reunion - 10/12/02 05:15 PM

I hardly ever attended school.. I was a wild child.<br>I was walking home from a g/f's place with some of my vinyl collection under my arm.. Walking past another classmate's parents home, when a young woman walked out of the gate in front of me.. she said hi, asked me what were the records I was carrying, found that we shared musical tastes, .found that we went to the same school and should be in some of the same classes except of course.. I didn't visit class often. She offered me a ride home. That was in 1970.. She even conned me into doing my final exams by breaking her ruler in half so thatwe each had half a ruler. We are still together. The classmates place she was visiting? well that classmate also married another classmate and yes they are still together also. Yes and half of my schoolmates have gone beyond too.<br><br>
Posted by: carp

Re: Strange people out there - 10/12/02 05:19 PM

Screw the marriage license. Its nothing but paper that says nothing.<br><br>I have seen marriages.<br>From childhood sweet hearts<br>To best friends forever then get married.<br>to heart throbs and one nite stands.<br><br>All have gotten a devorce.<br><br>Marriage is a work in progress that needs building by both forever.<br><br>
Posted by: Entish

Re: Strange people out there - 10/13/02 12:03 AM

and when did I say anything different?<br> marry does not mean a piece of paper.. marry means to join<br>I have been joined with my partner for 32 years and not yet legally hitched.<br><br>
Posted by: Entish

Re: Strange people out there - 10/13/02 12:05 AM

and when did I say anything different?<br>different from what you said that is<br>committment requires no legal papers<br><br>
Posted by: Entish

Re: I remembered - 10/13/02 12:22 AM

Ethel is a caring soul with a very big heart and a memory like an elephant.<br><br>
Posted by: DaddyMac

Re: It was like a fairy tale - 10/13/02 07:28 AM

ROFL...<br><br>Wow, you like em' young, huh Kate?<br><br><br>[color:orange]Hey! Wait a 'minute'....</font color=orange>
Posted by: iRock

Re: Reunion - 10/13/02 10:20 AM

Hey what a great story, Entish. <br>I had lots of crushes on people I thought I could not do without. I was still single for a couple years after I got out of high school. I was starting to get that stifling feeling living in a small town where there was no one new and few surprises and beginning to consider moving away. But after a wedding reception, some of my friends and I ended up going to a house with some guys and I hit it off with a shy one with a wonderful smile. Even though our families had lived in the same small community & our older siblings were in the same grades we never really knew each other. He even used to buy gas at my dad's store & I waited on him. That first night we sat and talked until morning. I felt a strange mixture of excitement and peace with this person. Still do. We made plans for the next day and the next and the next. We have been together almost 23 years and married for 22 of that.(half our lives now) I think the key thing is love, mutual respect & the fact that we bring out the best in each other. <br><br>Cheers, iRock<br>There are two major products that come out of Berkeley: LSD and [Unix] BSD. We don't believe this to be a coincidence.<br>Jeremy S. Anderson
Posted by: lesh

Re: Reunion - 10/13/02 11:56 AM

Well iRock you are a very lucky lady - I'm on marriage #2, and if I ever get around to extricating myself from this one I may never attempt it again. I'm starting to believe some of us are just too independent to make a partnership like marriage work out the way I imagine it should work.<br><br>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: Reunion - 10/13/02 11:58 AM

I know what you mean...I'm afraid I might have lived on my own for so long that change would be hard...<br><br>
Posted by: Mississauga

Re: Reunion - 10/13/02 12:26 PM

extrication requires dedication to the situation to gain reparation for separation<br><br>
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: Reunion - 10/13/02 12:28 PM

yeah..what he said <br><br>
Posted by: lesh

Re: Reunion - 10/13/02 12:38 PM

Ah - a new mantra!<br><br>
Posted by: yoyo52

Re: Reunion - 10/13/02 01:37 PM

Nice, iRock. I've been married for 22 years too.<br><br>Great wits are sure to madness near allied.--John Dryden, "Absalom and Achitophel"
Posted by: OSXaddict

Re: Reunion - 10/13/02 01:38 PM

Several nice stories...<br><br>