Loc: Pacific NW, USA
Don't forget in doing what's best to be true to yourself as well. It sounds like you are getting some help offline and that is a start. i think your heart will help guide you.<br><br>You can be changed by this but don't be reduced. Good luck my friend.<br><br>
Their relationship is okay at best. I'm sure there's mutual love. But it seems that it might only be because she should or has to. As far as her explaining her actions to our daughter, she said her actions didn't matter to her because she was asleep. I thought that was horrible.<br><br>
I don't know what's gone on with your wife, but as the picture becomes clearer, it also becomes more obivous she is really messed up. She is not in touch with the reality of the matter.<br><br>Move quickly.<br><br>
" . . . she said her actions didn't matter to her because she was asleep."<br><br>Instead of a divorce lawyer, maybe you should contact a psychologist. That's seriously warped thinking. Has she always thought this way or is this something new? If she's unwilling to undergo some sort of anaysis, maybe you can describe her behavior and get some professional advice. You wouldn't walk away from a marriage because of a debilitating physical problem and this shouldn't be any different. If this is her normal way of reasoning, maybe you should walk away. But then thats begs the question of why have a child with someone so obviously ill-equipped to be a parent.<br><br>
"If this is her normal way of reasoning, maybe you should walk away. But then thats begs the question of why have a child with someone so obviously ill-equipped to be a parent."<br><br>That is not a helpful thing to say. <br><br>
The problem with bringing in a shrink on your own is this (and I speak from first-hand experience): If her reasoning is that far out of alignment, she will most likely refuse any treatment or counseling. That kind of denial can be insurmountable. Court-ordered counseling is another matter, though.<br><br>A slippery slope no matter how you attack it.<br><br>
. . . and if she won't see a psychologist, at least he can talk to one himself and possibly gain some insight on what he can and cannot do to take care of his child and himself and minimize any harm she can inflict. Kind of like Al-Anon.<br><br>
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