I think that my confusion lies with my daughter and making sure she's alright through all of this. I know where I am, but it has to be okay with the little girl too. Poor thing. Though she's having a ball at gramma's house...<br><br>
I'm a little confused. <br>She's out all the time to socialize and she's seeing some guy because he's nice?<br><br>Does she think that you don't know what's going on? And yet she feels the need to lie?<br><br>I'm sure there was more to your conversation. I don't know if you learned enough to determine what direction to go. If not, I might suggest that since your daughter is staying somewhere else, you use this weekend to travel somewhere with your wife. Remove yourselves from the day to day enviorment, and spend the weekend having it out. Not fighting. But frank and direct talk. <br>Give her a reality check. Does she understand the hurt and damage she'll put on her daughter? Losing a husband that's been by her side for years. A rare quality. And like that.<br><br>If you decide it's not worth the sodding trouble, then you can chose to act strongly. Get a restraining order. Move her stuff into a storage unit and prepay for one month. Change the locks. Shut down any shared bank accounts and credit cards. <br>This can all be done in a single day. When she shows up, hand her the keys to the storage unit, a copy of the restraining order, and tell her you will absolutly have the order enforced if she does not keep her distance.<br><br>This is only my opinion, but when two people are married, they're married. they share, give and take, nurture and help each other. But if one of them decides to share themselves with someone else, it's a whole new ball game. <br>Why should you be a bank, resturant, and Motel 6, for someone who doesn't want anything to do with you?<br><br>
<blockquote><font size=1>In reply to:</font><hr><p>Why should you be a bank, resturant, and Motel 6, for someone who doesn't want anything to do with you?<p><hr></blockquote><p>That's exactly how I feel.<br><br>
I'm sure she is. She had it good. The bills were taken care of. There was a roof over her head. She got to see our daughter when SHE wanted to and be a wife when SHE wanted to. All while going out and "socializing" which she did at her leisure. I'm not interested in that.<br><br>
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You've already relayed the endless amount of 'second chances'- time to get tough.<br><br>That lock-changing thing doesn't sound like such a bad idea. If she needs a place to stay, the 'nice guy' has a couch right?<br><br><br>[color:red]MLB, O&A - only on XM! Sign up now and drive up my stock...</font color=red>
That's the thing... the nice guy doesn't "want" her now either. It's a very farked up thing. But she has remained in contact with him. That doesn't show signs of stopping. I have to get tough. I am being used as a door mat.<br><br>
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