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#150908 - 03/23/0401:53 PMRe: Relationship Post II: I'm not paying for dinner
All kidding aside...I think "who pays" is a good barometer for how well the date went. If it went great...I enthusiastically try to pay. But it's just as important to NOT make an awkward moment when the other person is insisting to pay or split the bill.<br><br>===================<br><br>S3V3N<br>Washington, DC USA
You nailed it. Seems like every relationship I've been in the girl equates money to love. The last one ended very badly and very painfully. I don't know if there really is a woman out there that has the ability to love if they're not being paid.<br><br>This has also happened to my friends, too. So, I know it's not just me.<br><br>I started dating one girl. Total earth child type of person. As soon as things got serious, she starts complaining about how I don't take her out enough, I don't buy her things, I'm not helping her with her bills. Yikes! Found another one.<br><br>No no, I have not come across a women to date, that isn't about money. You can be as caring, thoughtful, kind, supportive, and all that crap till you're blue in the face, but as soon as someone else waves a credit card in their face, they're gone. You're nothing more than a tapped out oil well to them.<br><br>
I've been holding my tongue for a while and it's been tempting to react wildly but I hope I don't come across that way.<br><br>I think every woman is different and it isn't right to assume that every female has "gold diggerish" qualities in her. I can only speak for myself though, so I'll try to do that.<br><br>I grew up a certain way, was brought up to believe that people should be treated kindly and respectfully. I didn't always manage it but I continue to try. I did not grow up lacking anything, my parents provided for me very well. I was a very content child...if a little chubby. <br><br>When I think about people I've been attracted to, I find myself getting drawn to smart, talented, witty and kind people. These people, more often than not, become my friends. Money has had very little to do with my relationships with them -- the only time I can think of money being a factor has been in my youth, when circles of friends depended on social classes (eg your neighborhood).<br><br>When I used to go out on a date, I expected certain things -- smarts, wit, kindness included -- and of course the romantic idea that he asked me out because he likes me. It is, to me, common courtesy that if you are asking someone out, you do that person the honor of paying his/her way. That still works for me. If I extend the invitation, I had better be able to pay!<br><br>Perhaps I think too young, too old...whatever. When I was dating, that's what worked for me, if someone does not like dealing with that, there's a good chance that man didn't get to see me again. Sounds simple enough. <br><br>
Okay, I'm in love with Amy AND you! <br><br>I have no doubt that my views would be different if I met someone like you. But the fates have not been kind to me and sadly, that hasn't happened.<br><br>Frankly, it still stings pretty bad from the last time, and it's hard not to wince at the though of stepping into that mine field again. It would be nice if a date could start out with that kind of introduction...<br>"Hi, my name is Martian. I'm clever, thoughtful, kind, playful, and don't play mind games."<br>"Nice to meet you. I'm Cindy. I'm honest, supportive, material things don't matter to me... What? Why are you smiling?"<br><br><br>
Well, it's very easy to love someone who hasn't had the time to show their flaws. I'm certainly not perfect -- trust me, I know. There are many things that are irritating about me and while I used to say, "Let's look for Mr. Right!" I now tell my girlfriends..."let's look for Mr. Right for You." <br><br>haha! Cheesy, I know. But a heck of a lot less pressure!<br><br>
Nobody is perfect. I can accept that. Relationships take work on both sides. But if the two people are commited to it, they're the ones that will be together for life. <br><br>I'm not looking for Ms. Perfect, or even Ms. Right. I think I'm looking for Ms. Don't Hurt Me. <br><br>
If as you say, you want someone that thinks like yourself<br>then some one that puts money ahead of all else is what you get.<br><br>So Watz Your Problem?<br><br>Take the girl you're trying to impress to Krispy Kreme's<br>and go around the block a few times filling up on free samples. <br><br>If that's not despicable in her eyes, she's your girl! Problem solved!<br>If she offers to pay for every other single donut to get two free,<br>HELL FIRE! It's a match made in heaven! Marry Her! <br><br><br>[color:green]"...or am I a butterfly that's dreaming she's a woman?"</font color=green>
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