well i figured it out, and thought i would answer my own question for the future refrence of others.

when burning a CD/DVD and you want a custome icon. You have to first do these few steps:

1) Enable hidden files to be seen. (you can do this with 3rd party programs like Xupport or Tinkertool)
2) Rename the icon you want to .ICON (the "." infront of any file, folder, app, HDD, or anything, gives it the pre-extension to be a hidden file.
3) move the hidden file to the root directory of the cd/dvd (meaning it's not in any folders)
4) disable hidden files to be seen, burn the disc and when it mounts on the desktop. you should see your custom icon.

if anybody can write this any better i would appriciate it.

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